A new technique to try out
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: August 26, 2008
This one I got as a tip from a friend of mine.
She told me that she puts the head of the penis in her mouth and sucks. Then she takes her thumb and her pointer finger and makes a O – on both hands.
Then while she is still sucking she will take the O (kinda like giving the universal sign for OK) that she made with her hand and run it down the shaft – alternating hands.
So it’s kinda like she is milking the penis – in the opposite direction – and sucking or tonguing the head.
She told me that he said it feels so good because it just feels like it keeps going in… but never coming out.
Give it a try and let me know how it worked for you!
Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com
The Bottom Of The Shaft
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: August 20, 2008
I recently got a comment from a visitor that threw me for a loop. It actually made me question my status as the “Blow Job Queen”… well, it made me question it for a second or two, then I came back to reality.
Just take a second and read what “A Guy” had to say:
“the head does feel good but the underside of the penis where our orgasm happens and actually when I masturbate most times I find myself focusing mainly there (its above the balls on the underside)….. to say ignore the base in my opinion is really bad advice, guys like for their whole piece to be engaged (obviously as if we were having vaginal intercourse otherwise we would just like the top part being inside of a female when we orgasm, which I know I put it in pretty deep when I’m cumming).”
Well “A Guy” I have to tell you that I completely agree with the fact that you should engage the entire penis. You wouldn’t ice ½ of a cake, so why give ½ a blowjob. I think I have made that more than clear. But it’s the other comments that I have some issue with…
I have spent years researching, reading and asking every man that I know about their personal preferences on blowjobs. And I have to tell you that when it comes to penis sensation that the head is where it is at.
And scientifically speaking, this is where the most nerve endings are and this is where there is the most feeling is in the penis. I can’t imagine ever getting a guy to reach an orgasm just by rubbing the underside of his penis because there isn’t as much sensation there.
Of course, I believe that every inch of the penis should be given attention… the underside the balls the shaft, every inch. All of it should be rubbed and sucked and licked – each time you perform a blowjob (unless you are giving speed head). And if you want to know what little thing that he really likes (such as giving attention to the underside of the penis) then all you have to do is ask.
BUT when you really get down to the moment when you want him to climax you are going to have to concentrate all of the stimulus to the head – that is key.
Same thing when going down on a girl… We love all the other rubbing and touching and licking and kissing, but if you want us to climax you are going to have to apply stimulus to the clit because that is where the nerve endings are and that is where the most pleasure comes from.
So the moral to this story… always love the entire penis, but when it comes to getting him off the bottom of the shaft isn’t the way to go.
Are Blow Jobs The Final Word On Pleasure?
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: July 30, 2008
Same reader, different question.
This girl wanted to know if she gave her boyfriend a blowjob what else could they do? Could they still have sex or would they just end up sitting around his apartment all day. And that is a good question.
With blow jobs there really is no definite answer, it really depends on the two of you. But to simplify it I’m going to break it down into 3 categories…
1. The pre-blow
I probably use this one more than any other. This is when you and your man are making out and doing all that really good foreplay you give him head.
It is never a full blow job (which means that you don’t give him head until he cums). All you are doing is giving him a little pleasure – for as little as a minute or as long as he can stand it – before you actually have “real” sex.
It can be the first sexual act that you start with to get things going, or you can do after all the kissing and even after him giving you oral sex. The combination is left up to your imagination.
2. The finish-up
This is the blowjob that you use after having sex to finish him up. Maybe he requests it, or maybe you have just been having sex forever and you are ready to wrap things up.
hesitate about sucking him off after you two have been doing it? Then just run grab a good cloth and clean him up… or lure him into the shower for some ditry, clean fun and get his penis really good and clean.. then lure him back out and make him cum by blowing his mind.
most guys never expect this and they love it when you suprise him with this very happy ending.
3. The Full Blow Job
This is the blowjob where you start him off and finish him up at the same time… but just because of that doesn’t mean that sex has to be over.
A few lucky guys have the ability to get hard again within a minute or a few seconds after they cum (and this happens to all guys on occasion). But most guys (especially if they are in their mid-30s and younger) have no problem getting hard again as long as you give them a little time and NEVER pressure them. When you pressure them to get hard again it can stress them out and remove any chance you are going to have of it getting hard again for a while.
I have a friend who swears by what she calls 1+1=2. This is where she gives her boyfriend a full blowjob and makes him cum. Then he goes down on her until she cums. This gives the guy enough time to recoup and provides him with the sexual stimulation he needs to get hard again on his own (without any pressure). After they have both gotten off with oral sex they then have ”regular sex”.
If you aren’t that crazy about him going down on you, then you could just crawl up next to him and let him finger you, caress you, talk dirty to each other, make you cum with toys.. whatever YOU want to do until he is ready again.
And, as always… you can rinse and repeat in any combination you choose. Sex can last for minutes or you can make it last for hours… it’s all up to you, you are only limited by your imagination.
I love to get questions, so ask!
Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com
To Kiss Or Not To Kiss… That Is The Question
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: July 30, 2008
I just had a visitor ask me a great question….
What do you do after giving a blow job – kiss him? brush your teeth? take a drink?
Well, I have had a few girls ask me that question and I always tell them the same thing. It really all depends on the guy.
I have personally been with guys who have said that the thought of kissing me after giving them a blowjob grossed them out (and everyone has their hang-ups so I never took it personally)… but then when things are really hot and heavy in the bedroom and you are caught up in all the passion their “rules” go right out the window. But always wait until he kisses you in that situation. I mean, he did tell you he didn’t like it, so respect that.
Also, if you just aren’t sure what his opinion is about the “after kiss” then approach the situation lightly. Don’t turn your head, spit and head straight in for a kiss. You could try kissing his stomach, his chest and his neck for a while. A guy has no problem kissing you after you have kissed his chest, so adding that break in between the two acts could be all he needs.
But really, if you are giving him a full and complete blow job he probably isn’t looking for a kiss right after. Let the boy enjoy himself and take a deep breath. Just sit back for a second and let him bask in your glory. If you are doing it right it will take him a second or two to come back down, so give him the time.
And PLEASE.. if you ever have a question feel free to ask! I am here to help you!
Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com
idiots with hard-ons
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: July 1, 2008
Recently I’ve had a few people try and use my blog as a way to hook-up with me or some of my other female readers. This is not cool. You are a reject, you are probably a sadist, and you are definitely wasting your time.
This blog is for women to become better lovers for themselves and their partners, this is a way for me to receive feedback and new tips from my readers. This is a way to empower and educate – not a way for a sleazy guy to hook up with fast women.
The women that visit my blog and my website www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com aren’t sluts looking for a good time. A lot of them are in monogamous relationships, or they are young and inexperienced, and some are just trying to learn a few new tricks to spice things up… But whatever their reason, they are all looking for an appreciative and confident man that isn’t asking them to suck his dick via posts.
I do love my male readers – they have always given me great feedback, important facts and tips and they absolutely love what I am doing. But there is always one that has to ruin it for everyone.
Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com
Lots Of Time, Skill, And Complete Disregard For Your Neighbors
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: June 26, 2008
Blow Jobs… rewards for good behavior
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: June 24, 2008
So I know that some of you men-should-worship-me-no-matter-what-I-do bitches out there are going to hate this post… but blowjobs aren’t always about having fun sexually. sometimes they are great motivators and every man will agree that they are the best way to say, “thanks” or “good job”.
See, men are very simple creatures. They do everything for women… in fact, if it wasn’t for women guys would probably just sit around and play video games with their buddies.
And a man who really loves you (or at least really likes you) will do anything in his power to make you happy. And he will continue to try hard to make you happy until the day that he realises that it’s not going to get him laid and your not going to be grateful.
Now, i’m not saying that a few kind words, a little “baby you are the best!”, and a kiss aren’t good enough. But whats the harm in giving the occasional blowjob to keep him truly motivated?
Whenever my man has done something really nice for me, or when he has worked really hard at something I know he is proud of… I like to give him a blow job as a way to say, “good job!” or “keep up the good work!”
He never knows when it’s going to come, or which good act is going to spur this oral appreciation… and I think the randomness is KEY here. And I like to wait for a time when he isn’t expecting a thing.
Yesterday it was a lazy sunday. My man had just come out of the shower and set on the couch to watch Nascar. (don’t ask me, I don’t understand the trill of cars going around in a circle either -maybe it is just a filler until fooball season).
I went to the front door, hit the lock and swaggered over to him lounging on the couch. I whispered in his ear, “You did such a good job roofing the house yesterday. I’m going to show you how much I appreciate it.”
Then I hit the floor and give him a complete start-to-finish blow job. Just the way I know he likes it. Ten minutes later he is wishing he could roof the house every weekend.
And let me say here that I’m not hitting me knees everytime he takes out the trash, or takes me out to dinner, or even spends all day doing some home-maintence work that I know he loaths. I just give them when I’m in the mood, when he has been good and when it’s been a while since the last time he got a no-strings-attached complete knob polish.
I think every woman should start working these into their monthly tasks (if you’ve got a good man who deserves them) as special rewards for good behavior. You have to give to recieve, so start giving!
Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com
Giving Head: His Hands
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: June 17, 2008
I’ve always heard about girls who just hate it when a guy puts his hand on the back of your head while you are giving a blow job. And It really does suck when he uses his hand to push you head too far and choke you… that rarely happens because guys don’t want to piss you off while you are giving them the ultimate pleasure.
BUT… I have to tell you boys, when I’m going down on a guy and he is really into it and starts to moan and puts his hand on the back of my head (not too hard, just putting it there and keeping up with the rhythm)- it drives me wild!
When he does that I know then that I am giving him one hell of a time and it makes the whole experience that much better. I enjoy giving head better when I know he is really enjoying getting it.
So don’t be afraid to put your hand there – as long as you are using it to show appreciation and not using it to force a deep throat – we aren’t going to bite it off!
And if you are unsure, then just ask! Communication is KEY in any healthy sex life…
Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com
Silly But Funny
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: June 11, 2008
This is silly, but it brought a smile to my face… I hope it does to you too!
Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com
Ice Can Be Nice
Posted by: Sandy Myers on: June 9, 2008
Here is a great little tip…
Next time you are planning on going down and you want to have a little fun… get a cup of ice.
You can use the ice in as many ways as you can imagine. They key is just to have fun. You can use the ice to hold on his balls while you give him a blow job. It will be really cold to him, but something about ice on his scrotom can actually make his orgasm that much more intense.
You can also put a piece of ice in your mouth while you are giving head. The ice will melt very quickly… but it will give him a great sensation. You can also try something really warm – like coffee or hot chocolate or just hot water and alternate between the two. Put a piece of ice in your mouth and go down on him until the ice melts then drink the hot stuff and go down on him – keep doing that back and forth until you have him really worked up.
In my experience, the ice will make him jump with delight more than the hot mouth (and its easier to boot) so if you want to keep it simple, my suggestion is to just use the ice.
But one thing that you need to do is keep the ice moving – letting it sit on one spot for too long can turn the good sensation into a burning sensation.
And a little bonus tip for yourself… putting the ice on his balls while you are getting him primed with a blowjob will make for great sex for you!
Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com
