But, I’m back to posting blow job tips and techniques for all of you!

To start off with, here is a great blow job joke…

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Well, you have a little extra skin on the top… which is pretty much like an extension of his penis head. It’s sensitive and he likes it when you touch it. But when you pull it back you see the head (which has been protected from most touch by the foreskin… so his head is extra sensitive to touch)

Aside from that… there isn’t that much difference. Both circumcised and uncircumcised men both love getting blow jobs. And you should never let a little extra skin hold you back.

As long as he keeps everything clean, it will be fine. Just don’t feel intimidated and ask him questions about anything you don’t know.

Until next time,

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com

If you have never done it before, then you can always use a vibrator or a “silver bullet” while you are giving him a blowjob.

You can use it around the base of his penis, on his balls and on his taint while your mouth is sucking his cock.

For some guys the sensation is a little too much, but some guys love it… and you will never know which guy you are dealing with until you try it out.

Until next time,

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com

But it’s not nasty, and it ain’t going to get your pregnant, and its completely fine for you to swallow… so you should at least give it a try.

One thing that I have found is that after a weekend of cigarettes and booze his cum ain’t going to taste the best.

If he is eating a lot of fruits and vegetables – especaially citrus fruits and celery – the taste really improves.

Don’t expect to feed him a stalk or two of celery and it taste like bubble gum, though. He needs to have it in his system and start eating these types of foods for a few days before it’s going to make a difference.

If you aren’t sure how to tell him to change his diet then just tell him what he will get for doing it – the swallow!

He will happily oblige.

Until next time,

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com

Don’t over-do it or go crazy with it cause then he will just assume that you are putting on an act and it will defeat the entire purpose.

But a nice moan that lets him know you are getting turn-on by sucking his dick will make it that much more enjoyable!

So get into it and make the noises that he has been dying to hear.

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com

#1: Teeth

The number one blowjob mistake: letting your teeth hit his cock. We can’t stress this enough. Ask any guy and he’ll tell you again and again: nothing is worse than a blowjob that is “all teeth”. In fact, most guys won’t admit it, but their idea of a perfect blowjob would be getting sucked off by a gorgeous woman with removable dentures. Teeth can nick and scrape the sensitive skin of the penis. Open your mouth wide enough that they stay away from his cock, or suck your lips in over them to cushion the rough edges. If he’s wearing a condom during the blowjob this may provide a slight buffer, but don’t count on it. 

#2: Going too fast

Some guys enjoy a quickie, but unless they’re in a hurry to get back to work or back to their wife/girlfriend, most men like to savor the experience of getting their cock sucked. So don’t rush them. It’s not a race to see how fast you can get him to spurt. Take your time and make it last. Concentrate on different parts of his penis, or his balls, then go back to basic sucking and stroking. At the end of a luxuriant BJ session, he’ll blow a much larger, more satisfying load. 

#3: Sucking too hard

Hoovering him like a dustbuster may seem like a good idea in theory, but there’s a wrong way to do it. Don’t fasten your mouth around the head of his cock and suck like you’re trying to get a triple-thick milkshake though a straw. Guys’ dickheads are the most sensitive part of the penis, and uncut guys are even more sensitive there. The proper technique to hoover is to take more of his cock into your mouth and apply moderate suction. 

#4: Crushing his nuts

Don’t grab his balls and squeeze like you’re trying to crack walnuts. This is a move you want to pull on a would-be rapist, not a guy you’re trying to get off. It’s painful. Many guys like to have their sack rubbed, licked, or gently tugged during a bj. You can even take a break from sucking his cock to take one or both of his balls into your mouth. But don’t yank on the family jewels, and don’t put them in a vise grip. 

#5: Barfing and gagging

Throwing up while giving a bj is definitely a turn-off, although sometimes this happens to the most well-intentioned cocksuckers. What happens is they get overenthusiastic, take the cock too deep or hard into their throat, the gag reflex gets triggered, and then it’s all over. Or once the cum starts hitting the back of her throat, things start flowing the wrong way. Don’t try to deep throat on your first BJ. Everyone will be sorry. Practice first on dildos to get your gag-reflex under control. Or just work up to it at your own speed. 

#6: Remaining immobile

Putting his cock in your mouth and then doing nothing is as bad as overdoing it. Most guys don’t want to feel like they’re face-fucking a cadaver. You need to work it at least a little. A total lack of effort or enthusiasm on your part is a real buzz kill. If you don’t know what to do with your tongue, at least bob your head. After a while, he may want to take a more active role and have you relax while he fucks your mouth, but you need to give him a little encouragement to get him aroused. 

#7: Not using enough pressure

Wimpy blowjobs are no fun. Be firm and suck him like you mean it. Lapping his dick lightly will just make him feel teased. Licking his dick like it’s a lollipop or popsicle may be fun to get warmed up, but then you have to get down to business. Use a firm (but not too firm) hand to work the shaft of his cock, while you get your mouth all over his knob and caress it with your tongue. 

#8: Spitting

Most guys want you to swallow and think that a BJ really isn’t complete until his load goes down your throat. The only exception is if he gets off more on spraying it on your face, tits, or somewhere else. If you really don’t want to swallow, this can be an acceptable compromise. Symbolically, swallowing shows that you accept him and his manly essence fully. Although we can’t endorse unprotected bodily fluid exchange in any form, if you happen to be giving an unprotected blowjob (i.e., without a condom) and you end up with his spunk in your mouth, do not retch his cum into a wastebasket in front of him. If you really feel you must spit, do it discreetly into a towel or tissue. 

#9: Dry mouth

A good BJ involves a lot of saliva. Don’t be afraid to get a little sloppy and drool on his cock. If your mouth is dry from nervousness or whatever, there will be too much friction and stickiness to give good head. If your mouth is dry, drink some water and rinse. Try to work up a good mouthful of spit before you go down. Suck on a hard candy to get your juice flowing, or suck on an Altoid to give him a mentholated BJ. 

#10: Stranglehold

Don’t put his cock in a deathgrip. It’s fine to wrap a hand around the shaft, but don’t clench and for god’s sake, watch the nails. Just hold it enough to keep it from flopping around and shuck his pole with your hand while you work him with your mouth. His dick shouldn’t have a handprint on in when you’re done.

Until next time,

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com

If you are nervous about giving head – or if you are worried that you aren’t going to do it right – or if you want to give better head then I’m going to tell you one thing that NO OTHER magazine article and NO OTHER sex expert will ever tell you…

Forget about techniques and positions and styles – just become sensual.

Maybe drink a glass or two of wine to relax, smoke a joint, go for a long walk, take a long bubble bath – just do whatever it takes to make yourself feel a little relaxed and a little more sexual.

Then you are going to need some foreplay – kissing, cuddling, flirting, dirty talk – get yourself worked up along with your partner… 

THE MAIN THING THAT YOU HAVE TO DO IS MAKE YOURSELF FEEL SEXY

I know it sound crazy, but the more confident and sexy you feel the more fun you both are going to have.

Once you are a little relaxed, a lot turned on and feeling like you are a sexual goddess… then its time to get to work.

Get into a comfortable position where you can stay for a while (my personal favorite is him laying on his back and me on my knees BESIDE him (not 69 but almost) I can give a great blow job for a long time and he can use his fingers to play with me).

Now just go to town – Do whatever you want. What feels natural. Just get into it and enjoy giving him a blowjob. Make it messy, make it fun and don’t even worry about making him cum right now… just play and suck and stroke and try.

There are only 2 rules that you MUST stick to- don’t be mean to his balls and don’t bite or use your teeth. Other than that… just do what you want to.

If you are truly feeling comfortable with him and yourself… and if you are truly feeling sexual and sensual… then you two are going to have a nice, long, fun and very rememberable time.

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com

So in order to discover what moves work the best for you and your partner you have to just jump in there and try it. Make up a few new tricks if you want to… just get on in there and get your hands dirty.

Don’t be afraid to try new stuff – just take it a little slow when you first incorporate a new move. It’s just a good idea to get all the kinks worked out before you hit high speed and risk hurting a ball or two.

And the best way to find out if what you are doing is working is to get feedback. Requesting feedback will enlighten you on ways you could never discover on a blog. Feedback is the a great way to not only improve your blow-jobs, but make you a much better lover. 

The best feedback I have ever gotten was when I was when I was in a comfortable relationship… while we are laying there post-coital, all happy and sweaty. I will just ask , “Did you like that thing that I did with my tounge (or my hand or leg)?” and usually his response will be typically be either:

“YES! loved it, it was amazing, ya-da, ya-da” and I would have a new trick to stick into the repotra’

or

“Well, it felt good and all, but it was kinda rough on my balls (or it didn’t give me much sensation or whatever).” and then I would know next time not to do that. In this particular situation it can be hard to hear that your hard work wasn’t paying off the way you planned – but you need to see it as constructive and NEVER GET DEFENSIVE (thats what crazy girls do).

If you open the topic – and he sees that you aren’t going to throw an emotional fit with a little honest communication – then he will usually ask you questions, or tell you that one thing that drove him wild or any of those good things.  

If you want (and this is something that he will love) is you can go back down there and put your fingers on his penis or this balls or his thigh or WHATEVER and ask… “You liked it when I did it like this?” “If I do it like that will it feel better?”

Its an amazing way to get another round going.

BUT… This is feedback tatic is only to be used with a comfortable relationship… new comers and quick relationships won’t EVER tell you the truth.

AND.. You can’t do this all the time or a guy will think that you are incrediably insecure or that you are obsessed… and quite frankly if you do feel the need to play 20 questions after each session then you are probably one of the two.

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com

So naturally, I enjoyed sex when I grew up and started doing it.

And almost instinctively I was a little advertourus and wanted to try a bunch of different things. And I wanted to become a better lover too. I asked questions and requested feedback and read articles and all that good stuff.

But lately… now that I am quickly watching my 20s fade behind me and now that I am in the longest running relationship of my life (1.6 years) I am noticing that the sex is starting to become a little too mechanical… like too much of the focus is on technique. Like all I ever think of is action and reaction.

Of course, I know I’m good in bed… that isn’t the problem at all. My sex life is good, it’s just that I got all the technical stuff down… I want to get into some of that David Bowe-type shit.

So because of this I have decided than I am going to learn how to become a more sensual lover. And on top of leaving tips about blowjobs I am also going to be reporting back any intresting, helpful or wacky information that I discover in this new little journey I’m about to take.

And I would love any articles, websites, etc. etc. that you want to reccomend – just PLEASE make sure that your suggestions don’t suck.

So… are you wondering why I titled this post “Sex Expert? Is There Really Such A Thing Anyway?” Probably not, but I’m goign to tell you anyway.

The more I run this blog the more that I start to realise that I don’t know as much as I thought I did. I mean, I have the basics down but I want to know more.

I realised that I am not, in fact, a sex expert. I’m just a regular girl with a curious mind.

And then I though… is there really such a thing as a sex expert?

What? you were expecting something deeper? I was high when I had that little inner-questioning so just roll with it.

And sex expert or not… I’m still keeping the title of “Blow-Job Queen”

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com