It doesn’t matter if you are learning a new job, cooking dinner or giving better blow jobs… you really have to do it yourself a few times before you really learn how.

So in order to discover what moves work the best for you and your partner you have to just jump in there and try it. Make up a few new tricks if you want to… just get on in there and get your hands dirty.

Don’t be afraid to try new stuff – just take it a little slow when you first incorporate a new move. It’s just a good idea to get all the kinks worked out before you hit high speed and risk hurting a ball or two.

And the best way to find out if what you are doing is working is to get feedback. Requesting feedback will enlighten you on ways you could never discover on a blog. Feedback is the a great way to not only improve your blow-jobs, but make you a much better lover. 

The best feedback I have ever gotten was when I was when I was in a comfortable relationship… while we are laying there post-coital, all happy and sweaty. I will just ask , “Did you like that thing that I did with my tounge (or my hand or leg)?” and usually his response will be typically be either:

“YES! loved it, it was amazing, ya-da, ya-da” and I would have a new trick to stick into the repotra’

or

“Well, it felt good and all, but it was kinda rough on my balls (or it didn’t give me much sensation or whatever).” and then I would know next time not to do that. In this particular situation it can be hard to hear that your hard work wasn’t paying off the way you planned – but you need to see it as constructive and NEVER GET DEFENSIVE (thats what crazy girls do).

If you open the topic – and he sees that you aren’t going to throw an emotional fit with a little honest communication – then he will usually ask you questions, or tell you that one thing that drove him wild or any of those good things.  

If you want (and this is something that he will love) is you can go back down there and put your fingers on his penis or this balls or his thigh or WHATEVER and ask… “You liked it when I did it like this?” “If I do it like that will it feel better?”

Its an amazing way to get another round going.

BUT… This is feedback tatic is only to be used with a comfortable relationship… new comers and quick relationships won’t EVER tell you the truth.

AND.. You can’t do this all the time or a guy will think that you are incrediably insecure or that you are obsessed… and quite frankly if you do feel the need to play 20 questions after each session then you are probably one of the two.

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com