I had a comment the other day from a reader and I had to make a post about it. The post was:

“great advice… one caveat is to watch the balls when you’re moving around a lot with your hands and mouth, pleasure can turn to pain very quickly”

This is very true. In fact, I had to learn about this little tip the hard way.

Back when i was in college I thought I knew a lot about giving head. (this was before I read all the books, watched all the movies and practiced, practiced, practiced )

I was dating this guy and I was trying to go for the gold and give a really great blowjob. I was really into it and I thought I was making him see god when he stopped me and said, “Um… it’s really feeling good and I don’t want you to stop, but, ummm…. could you maybe watch how your hand knocks my balls, that kinda hurts, um, a little bit.” 

Talk about taking the wind out of my sails. I thought I was doing great and he is telling me I’m terrible. My first response was to just stop giving him head… just pack up my stuff and go.

But then I thought about it rationally, I realized that I need that feedback and I want that feedback. It will make me better at this. I decided to try it again and I made sure I went gently. Then I started getting really into it again… instead of letting my hand or my head or something knock the crap out of his balls, I used one hand to gently cup the balls and protect them from any stray movements… like an athletic cup

This little incident came up a time or two while we dated and he told me that covering and protecting his balls made all the difference in the world. It let him enjoy getting head instead of laying there wondering when the next attack to his balls was going to be.

So really, this is two points in one post.

1. Always be wary of knocking, hitting or bumping into the balls… they are very delicate. Even a stray bump can shake them and hurt. AND if you think your blow job is in any danger of attacking them in anyway, use one hand to gently protect them from getting “juked” around.

2. If a guy ever has the guts to speak up and tell you that you are doing something wrong… don’t be mad or offended. Communication is key to an amazing sex life. Make the change, rock his world and then next time you won’t feel bad at all letting him know that the-weird-thing-he-does-cause-he-thinks-you-like-it isn’t necessary.

Sandy Myers
The Blow Job Queen
www.howtogiveheadblowjob.com